Tap, tap. Is this on? It’s been while, team. Let’s see if I remember how blogs work.
One of the tricky things about getting back into something after a break is that the mental block keeping you from getting back into it grows exponentially as time goes on. The last year has been full, to say the least. We added a new baby to our family (hi Wes!), started homeschooling, and the world has suffered through a pandemic of illness, panic, and tension on a scale I’ve never experienced before. All of which has left me with little time for writing and even less confidence to publicly share any words with anyone. It all makes sense and I’m not beating myself up about it, but I’m also trying to figure out how to push back against the fear and insecurity and find my voice again.
It may feel like your dating life is majorly on hold during the Covid-19 pandemic. And you’re right- in many ways it is! Meeting a guy in person and spending time together is so important as you decide if you want to move forward. It’s okay to be bummed about pausing that part of the dating process.
However! You can still be proactive in your dating life in other ways.
The holidays are almost here! I love me some Thanksgiving- the food, family, thankfulness. The food. =) And don’t even get me started on how much I love Christmas. Music, Advent, Jesus, presents! So many things to love. Oh, I almost forgot Christmas trees! Decorations! Twinkle lights! Love, love, love.
Back when I was single, I enjoyed all those things, but there was also an extra amount of loneliness and sadness for me during the holiday season. Married life brings its own set of complexities to work through during the holidays (more on that another time), but generally speaking I am more content now in November and December than I was before I got married. My singleness felt heavier and harder when Thanksgiving and Christmas rolled around each year.
In my ongoing effort to make set ups more casual and common, I’ve decided to declare a monthly holiday- Set Up Saturday! Every second Saturday of the month (yay for alliteration), I’m going to pray and consider if I know any single friends I can introduce to one another. And if anyone comes to mind, I’m going to take simple steps to make it happen. Want to join me?
Set-ups and blind dates need some new marketing because oftentimes they get a bad rap. Ask someone about how they feel about blind dates, and you’ll typically see some eye rolls followed by any number of horror stories.
This was my first podcast interview, so I was nervous! But Erin and Larissa were gracious hosts that asked helpful questions. And I’m praising the Lord for helping me communicate clearly about the season of life I’m in and the dating topics I’m passionate about.
Hi friends! A few days ago I had a chance to chat with Natalie Met Lewis in her great facebook group for single women. We talked all about being intentional with your dating life- you can catch the replay of our conversation if you request to join the group. We had fun, so we think you’ll enjoy it, too! =) And though we talked about a lot of topics, we mainly focused on setting some dating goals for the year. Here’s a little summary of what I shared…
Hello again!Laura invited me to guest post on here to talk about some of the changes I made in order to pursue dating more actively.If you haven’t read Part 1, you may want to start there to get a better idea of the way that process began, how I asked Laura if I could pay her to coach me, and how that process eventually led to meeting my wonderful husband.For me, one of the hardest parts of working towards active dating was processing the discomfort of new behaviors – and persisting through that discomfort.Here are some of the most concrete changes that helped me persevere when the wait felt long…